it is sad and most times they don't realise it but they're actually punishing themselves.
Well, i have been there and don't even remember since how long until i realized that-
"Attachment is actually in the head!"
I had let go of a relationship a long time back, yet my mind had been sincerely attached and hence keeping me unhappy. I realised I have to ‘Actually’ let go to be happy, meaning let go of him from my mind and say goodbye to his thoughts forever. So what if I don’t meet him, all the love has been in my mind. Hence, free my mind of all attachments.
All this while I thought I can’t live without him, but now I know the solution is not just to let go of him from my life but also from my head!
It is only then, that I have actually moved on and stopped punishing myself. I have to keep my mind at other things. Think of a bright future, plan my way through this darkness towards sunshine!
Yellow, is not about him, it is about me being happy! No one but I alone can make me happy! So I have to love myself enough and keep me from thinking about sad things or sad people!
I am Dhira Roy and that is invincible enough! =)